3 WAYS ASKING FOR HELP HEALS CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
I learned these three things in the last one month of planning for my birthday party and fundraiser.
3 WAYS ASKING FOR HELP HEALS CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
I have a story to share, lol.
Honestly, I do not like asking people for help. I am always afraid of reaching out to people for help. Perhaps you are like me, let me share with you what I am currently going through.
I started planning for my 30th birthday on April 27, 2023.
My birthday is May 31st, but the party is on June 10th now.
At first, I was worried about asking people to buy a ticket to attend my birthday party.
I was in a room where people felt it was not a good idea to ask folks to buy a ticket to attend my birthday party.
When I got home that day, I realized that if someone was to ask me to buy a ticket to attend a birthday party, I would do so. I would ask the person if he/she needs any help.
I knew I had an excellent idea for my birthday party and fundraiser, so I continued to plan, despite the doubts in my head.
So far, I have many registered guests for my 30th birthday party.
And here are three things that this process of asking has taught me.
You can consider these three things I will share as healing strategies or trauma recovery tools.
1. Asking is vulnerable. In a world where most people do not want to be vulnerable, I want you to be vulnerable. Ask your neighbor for a ride. Ask a stranger to take a picture of you.
Ask your colleague to help you with your assignment. In whatever way you can, ask someone today to do something for you.
When you become vulnerable, you are healing; you are helping your inner child learn to be comfortable with reaching out her arms to receive help in whatever form. When you ask, you heal from childhood trauma. You allow yourself to be vulnerable.
2. Asking helps you discern people's personalities. So, if you have the rescuer mindset, you will always give, share, and will never ask for help. But, asking is important for your healing. Asking is important for helping you discern people's personalities. If you never ask, and you are always the one who gives, you can never discern if the people in your circle are as loyal to you as you are to them.
3. Asking teaches you about yourself. When I began planning my birthday party(I have never planned for my birthday party, but always for my children and other people). I saw myself in this process. I was able to appreciate myself more. I saw that my influence had increased; I did not realize how much folks would be willing to support me until I began planning for my birthday.
So, while I may not know where you are in your healing journey, social interactions, or relationship cultivation, I know you can take your healing a step further using these three proven strategies.
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