5 REASONS YOU NEED TO SET BOUNDARIES THIS WEEK

If people take you for granted, you should be reading this...

I doubt if there is anyone, who wants to live life, without having the love and support of the people you love and care about.

What happens if you don’t get the love and support from those you give it to?

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Then this piece is for you...

5 REASONS YOU MUST SET BOUNDARIES

1. You teach others how to love you-

So, if you are always the giver in your relationships (friendships, or whatever kind of ships), you can't allow others to value what they have with you if you are the one always doing the calling, the texting, the visiting, the giving of gifts, quality time among other things. When you take a step back, Sena, you allow your friend, Kofi, to reciprocate.

If after taking a step back, and you don't get back what you have given, then you need to ask if that person deserves your energy.

Although, Sena, you need to recognize that some people are somewhat introverted. So, make sure to recognize personality differences. But, hey, you can tell if someone is giving back the love you show them.

2. You weed out wrong energy- When you set boundaries, you determine what you can tolerate from people, and what you can't.

So, if you pay enough attention, Ngozi, you will be able to tell that Aunty Justina, is not a good person after all, and you can move her to casual friends. For instance, if Justina is always complaining about how you dress, your weight, etc; you should ask yourself: Is she a healthy person to be around?

3. You develop emotional independence-

Yes, I know we all need people to lean on, Brandon, but if you can't go a week without sitting at the bar with Drake, you always want him around you for a smoke or a drink. Yeah, I feel you- but how do you train yourself to become emotionally mature and independent?

4. You recognize those who care about your feelings-

I know she loves you, Jessica, but if she handles your clothes anyhow or even destroys your makeup because you insisted on wearing pink when she thought orange was better for that Pride month meetup, she shows you that she cares less about your feelings. That is a good reason to set boundaries, my love.

I can't say this enough, my darling. And yes, I also talked about it in my book, Broken Child, Broken Adult. Check it out at www.ideyforyou.com/shop to view all my books.

5. You make room for love to find you- Remember that children's series, Mr. Bin, and Miss Bobo. Mr. Bin takes all the garbage, and so the kids would even say to him, "Mr. Bin, can you take care of this mess for us, please?" Of course, Mr. Bin gladly makes room for even more garbage. But on the contrary,NO ONE will ever ask Miss Bobo to take the garbage. Why? She is a fairy Queen.

She carries herself differently, and you see, Umar, what you accept, is a reflection of the people you draw into your life.

If you make the hard choice of setting boundaries, you will be making room for that destined Aisha, who will love and respect you, and treat you like the Mai Gida that you are. Ka na ji ko?

If you forget anything this week, my love, remember these golden rules of attracting positive energy.

Which of these rules speaks to you?

Let me know in the comment section.

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