“As I listened to Dude speak about the Don't Touch My Hair campaign, I was reminded of many things. It caused me to think about touching in another way. I thought about touching as a form of control. I thought about touching as a form of power. I thought about how touching was not limited to physical, but also psychological control. Making decisions about the hairstyles someone can make, even without physically touching the person’s hair, meant touching. I remembered how my partner used to touch my hair, by deciding my choice of hairstyle.
I remembered how he would call me disobedient if I wanted other hairstyles he did not approve of. It was sickening, Shane. He would get angry when I made hairstyles he disapproved of. He had an image of what he wanted me to look like. I did not like it. I wanted to try on new hairstyles. I remembered telling him I wanted to cut my hair. He told me women who shaved their hair, were not responsible and were mostly unhappy people. He said they were disobedient women without husbands. Oh God, there was nothing he would not say to make me doubt my choices. He always touched my hair, and would never stop.”
Today, I begin another topic in the series. What is attachment?
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If I wasn’t reflective and analytic with my emotions, I would have made another mistake, becoming intimate with Kem. Also, I had a few people who offered me clarity and helped me understand my emotions better.
I want you to buy the Clarity of Vision program.
I am hosting 30 friends in Chicago, and the plan is to use this event to raise funds for my birthday party as well.
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Talk soon.
Best,
Queen BM.
Bisola-Mariam