How to survive intergenerational trauma Part 5
I know it's the middle of the week, but need to start doing this!
Yes, we did it! This is the concluding part of this week’s series.
📍You probably know already that you have been impacted by intergenerational trauma, but guess what?
There is a lot you can do…
Let’s get into the final part…
Self-care activities you can begin to do.
Here are three simple activities I have done, and often recommend to others.
📍 Reject.
Reject any direct attack at you, from other people in your life, who treat you like you were treated by your caregiver. If you can’t reject them, because they are too powerful, or you are married to such, create a new mental picture.
📍Reject their presence in your subconscious and begin to internalize new images. Just think about how faith works.
The idea that you don’t have Tacos in front of you, but you can literarily savor the bite of tacos.
Yum, right?
So, practice reprogramming your mind, by rejecting that that person exists.
This practice is only effective if you repeat daily, at least for 30 days, until it becomes something you believe.
📍Separate.
Sometimes, I think it is important to separate what we felt in our childhood experiences, from what someone is doing to us in the present.
Let me explain; some situations are not what we think they are.
If you had someone criticize you as a child, it may weigh you down, and make you less receptive to even feedbacks that are honest.
So, if you can separate these two situations, you can be sure you are not being treated unfairly.
Some of the things to look out for, is how often the criticisms come from the new people in your life, the tone of their voices when they speak to you, among other things.
Above all, I want you to feel safe, and if your intuition tells you someone reminds you of your childhood trauma, follow your intuition- it will never fail you.
Remove yourself from such relationships immediately.
📍Affirm.
One of the ways to clean up the mess from our childhood is to replace such negative energy with positive energy. This is possible if you say good things to yourself.
Your perspective, your life, and situation, is what matters primarily- not what others have to say about you. Speak to yourself.
Talk about how incredible you are! Talk about how amazing you feel about yourself.
You can give to your inner child everything you never got as a child and it starts now!
Here are some affirmations worth repeating!
Today is a good day.
Everything is good today, nothing is wrong.
Everything is perfect today, nothing is wrong.
Everyone loves me, everyone wants me.
The universe is on my side.
I forgive myself for my past mistakes, the mistakes of today, and even the ones I will make in the future.
I am not my childhood trauma.
I am better than my wounds.
I forgive you mother, for every hurt you caused me.
I forgive you father, for every hurt you caused me.
I forgive you (mention the name of the person or people who come to mind) for causing me so much hurt.
I am sorry for hurting you, (mention the name/those you have also hurt).
Say these affirmations, even if you are no longer in contact with the persons you have hurt or have caused you pain.
I am sorry for not taking care of myself.
I am sorry for feeling bad for what was never my fault.
I am a good person.
I do good always, even when I do not feel like it.
PS: This picture is what I look like when I put myself first, and choose to take care of my inner child, despite what everyone has done to try to break her. 😉😅
Questions: What did you learn from this week’s series?
How are you going to take care of your inner child this weekend? 😉
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