If (s)he hits you and buys you flowers, read this

Today, I wanted to talk to you about two words. Read!

I made a post about Valentine on The Lefthanders African International Organization Against Stigma & Abuse. One of the things I realized is that several people have no idea what love is or is about.

Many people are in a TRAUMA BOND. Imagine a cycle with four phases.

Abuse———-Affirm(love)————Abuse———-Affirm(Love).

Some people are in toxic relationships where they have been abused and at the same time, they are enjoying the height of intimacy. So you are in a relationship with someone who abuses you, then the same person showers you with gifts…. This is a confusing kind of relationship. It makes you doubt your reality. You suffer from cognitive dissonance. If you have a broken childhood, you will normalize this kind of experience. It will cause you to think that that is how LOVE IS. You will normalize it.

What is a trauma bond? How do you know if you are a victim of one?

Please watch my live session on our Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/249861852674309/?ref=share

You can watch it on Instagram as well. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CZ7sTpKFPvL/?utm_medium=copy_link