Is your partner seasonally kind?
As written in the self-care journal, Broken Child, Broken Adult.
It’s day 42 of this series. Today, I wish to share with you about sign that your partner or lover is a narcissist.
When this person is kind when there’s something to gain from you, there’s a problem.
I will share two scenerios.
I shared in my book, How to Kill Your Spouse, how my relationship with my ex-husband was.
Kindness for him, was transcational. This first scenerio has to do with our romantic life.
My ex was the type who would display acts of kindness if he believes he’s going to be rewarded with sex. And as soon as he’s done, we return to the toxicity.
I will give another scenerio, but an extreme one. If you partner calls you special when there’s something to gain, there’s a problem. If such partner would use your money, and next, would curse or hit you, that is a sign. Empathy for the person you love, should never be transactional. If this is so, run!
I remember how my ex would speak terribly of my mother and his sisters, but he would also return to these people for financial assistance when stuck.
I was not an exception you know. On page 110 of my book, How to Kill Your Spouse, I shared from memory, a personal experience. I shared about two screenshot of two different messages. In one, he was cursing me for being a terrible mother, and in the other, he was showering me with praises. He praised me for actually financially supportive. Even though he would never approve me doing anything for my siblings.
When you experience love in this way, this is unhealthy, and you need to watch it.
A healthy person is consistent. A narc. is not consistent. A healthy person will be kind towards all. A narc measures empathy based on loyalty and the ability to be infallible. It is not possible for any human to be infallible.
If you are experiencing this kind of struggle, you need to speak to someone, or join a community where you can do so.
In the month of June, I will open up the BM’S academy for membership. Membership fee is $1. This has to be renewed monthly.
In this academy, I will provide coach/mentorshipon these signature areas.
Clarity and healing strategiesfor victims of toxic relations/ domestic. This is the first key subject to be covered. I will prioritize questions on this subject in the academy. This coaching will usher us into World Domestic Violence Day in October.
Clarity for scholars looking to secure funding to study, or conduct research abroad.
Clarity for scholars with long time study plans, victims of domestic violence without financial empowerment, but are looking to have to build a sustainable source of income online or offline.
I will be a year older in exactly 3 days from today. May 31st precisely, and I will be making some big announcements, which am so excited about!!!! 😊 💃
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Talk soon,
Abundance is here.
Thanks for sharing, BM.