One memorable date...and the three things...
Today is day 30, and I share with you the last story in my first book.
For the next 21 days, I will share a totally different story. Simply sharing signs that because you were a broken child, you became(or attracted) another broken adult.
Broken child, broken adult is what I will be sharing about for the next 21 days. I will be writing to you, and going live as well to chat live.
“Three things happened to me in Osogbo. The first was a feeling of freedom because he was not around to control me. The second was that I had time to think about our lives together for the past 8 years. The third was that I was compelled to keep writing. I wrote with the aim to understand everything from my past while making sense of my present. It was there I authored my first book. I wrote my pain from the past. Yet, was hurting in the present. I remembered that I take out every part of my book that had to do with him. These were the message we exchanged.
My revolution began in Osogbo. It was not America that changed me as many people thought. It was the lockdown that changed my life. It changed E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G! I was tired of my marriage. I started loathing him. It was not America that changed me. It was the lockdown that freed me. The lockdown isolated me from him. It made me see things clearly.
***
Have I Been Americanized? This was the first question I asked myself. My partner also said the same thing repeatedly. My freedom did not begin here, in America. It started in Nigeria. The lockdown in Oshogbo was where my Americanization began, not in America itself. If I can put it that way.
When I first asked for a divorce in Oshogbo, he hit me. I remember him hitting me on the face when I whispered, am going to get a lawyer”. Our children were watching when he hit me on the face. My mother was watching. My sister was watching. My brothers were watching. Tell me, have I been Americanized for wanting justice? For saying no to an abusive marriage? Tell me, have I been Americanized, for choosing to end my marriage now? NO!
My freedom was accelerated when I move to the United States. My partner was killing me. No one could help me. My scholarship to study in the United States became my asylum. I was numbed for years. I was numb because of his words. He was doubting my reality. He isolated me from everyone. He used fear and control. He was killing me, but I did not know. I did not know, because I was numb.
I learned there was a way to kill one’s spouse without scars that the eyes could see. You pierce their hearts without touching them. Words that hurt more than an arrow. Have I been Americanized? Maybe so. I could feel my body. I could feel my heartbeat. I was no longer numb. If feeling my heartbeat again meant that I was Americanized, I very much want to be Americanized every day.
Every time I listened to BM, it felt as though I had never heard her voice before. Always penetrating. I was beginning to piece all the puzzles together. I understood how everything started”
For the next 21 days, I decided to switch things up.
I will be going live daily.
21 days live sessions
From today, till the end of the month, I will be teaching live instead on my channels.
Especially on Youtube, Podcast and Instagram. I plan to go live at 9am my time everyday. That is 3pm Nigerian time.
My goal is to tell you the back story, to my coming out story, and teach some life lessons for 21 days.
I will also teach for the next 21 days about Narcissistic Abuse and the red flags.
The last few days will usher us into my birthday party and book launch.
My book launch is around the corner. I need your help. No matter your location, you can donate to support me, as I share my story with the world please. I can not do this by myself.
I am also inviting you as a guest to my launch/ birthday party.
To attend, register at www.bisolamariam.com/becomingbm
SEND ME A PRIVATE MESSAGE/BIRTHDAY WISH
I am collecting birthday reviews and testimonies/questions.
If you have followed these series so far, and you have questions to ask, testimonies to share, or simply have something to share with me as I celebrate my birthday.
Option 1
Simply click the link below and complete the form.
https://forms.gle/hUBdr1Xv9p72S7xNA
Click here to submit your birthday wishes for me.
Option 2
Or send your video testimonies/birthday wishes to this number.
Send a video testimony to +12058876495 (Whatsapp chat only).
I look forward to your questions and birthday wishes.
Abundance is here, there is no lack.
Your friend,
Queen BM.