Only Bitches Get a Massage?

Today is 24 of my 60 days series on childhood trauma and Narcissistic abuse.

I am sharing another excerpt from my book.

“Bitches Gets a Massage? 

I have always liked to try new things even when I was back in Nigeria. I remember once telling my ex-husband how I would love to get a massage. I remember how he would talk me out of the idea. He told me that people actually do terrible things in a spa, such as a woman getting fucked actually. He told me that the male masseurs who claim to massage, actually have sex with married women.  

Every time he said these things, I would be afraid. Even when I told him there were female masseurs, he would not listen. He was totally against the idea. He would tell me that if I ever needed a massage, he was going to do that. In the marriage, he never gave me a message because I just wanted it. It had to involve him having sex with me. I mean there was always a motive for his gestures. Many times I did not want anything else. I just want a massage. Nothing else! But he never got the point. 

When I decided to end the relationship, one of the things I wanted badly was to do everything he said not to do. I started dancing. I would go this daily.

At the end of each month, I would also go for a spa treatment and full body massage.   

I enjoyed going there. When you told me your body was aching. I decided to surprise you, by asking you to come.”

Today I am teaching about Ambivalent attachment style.

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