People said I should have deceived him...

Is it a crime to be honest?

The truth is, I am not a good liar. I wish I lied to him and made him do my bidding.

I did not want to join the bandwagon of women who deceive their partners to achieve their aim.

I have always believed in dealing honestly with people. While my truth may have complicated things, it exposed many things I did not know during our 10 years together.

After I told him I wanted out, I heard about the things my mother and sibling had kept a secret from me. If my partner was here with me in the US, it might be difficult to believe what I heard about him. He is very smart, and if you ever sit around him/listen to him, he can convince anybody.

If I did not speak honestly with him, I would never have known how dirty he would go.

While all this chaos was going on, I still kept supporting him. I still kept talking to him about his study plans. I still kept proposing that he could come with the children to the United States.

I still have a recording of our conversations.

Listen here.

I also sent him a message, and even talked to the school’s international office to find out how he could come with the children.

I want you to go over everything you have learned about childhood trauma in the past week. So, I recorded a YouTube video and Podcast that can help you.

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Listen here: https://anchor.fm/bisola-mariam/episodes/Chidhood-trauma-activity-e1fsu8r

I know how disappointing life, people, events or circumstances can be, but what if I tell you, that if you plan, you can begin to make changes to your life. But if you don’t know how to make those specific life-changing decisions, you will never be free.

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I will turn 30 this month and am excited to host 30 friends in Chicago. I would like to have you attend. By purchasing a ticket, you make it possible for us to also raise.

Your Queen,

BM.