The story of Narcissus and Echo...
Broken child, broken adult...
Day 31...
Broken child, broken adult...
The signs that you are a broken child, in an adult body are simple.
Quite frankly, everyone is broken.
A Narcissist is broken.
A codependent is broken.
The only difference between them is how they respond to their brokenness.
A codependent becomes overly concerned about people, the world and making everything better; something that is impossible.
A Narcissist does not care about anyone but self. To help you understand these these two people, I will tell you a story.
I first encountered the word Narcissist in my classical mythology text book. Let me tell you the story of two mythical characters, Narcissus and Echo.
Narcissus was a very charming boy. He was so handsome that even the gods and goddesses loved him. He was aware of his beauty and became proud. He was so full of himself that he never paid attention to Echo's feelings towards him. He would disregard her.
Now you know the story behind the word "Narcissism".
So that psychological disorder called Narcissism, has its roots in classical mythology.
Narcissus was a very charming boy. He was so handsome that even the gods and goddesses loved him.
He was aware of his beauty and became proud. He was so full of himself that he never paid attention to Echo's feelings towards him. He would disregard her.
Now you know the story behind the word "Narcissism".
So that psychological disorder called Narcissism, has its roots in classical mythology.
Let us talk about Echo. Echo was beautiful too. She didn't see her own beauty. She clearly lacked self worth. She was running after Narcissus.
She was in love with him, but the dude was too proud to notice her. She kept excusing his bad behavior, and kept chasing Narcissus. Echo would speak of her love for him, but he never heard her.
He never reciprocated. He never appreciated it, yet she kept giving him attention. That was Echo, the beautiful one, who never saw her worth.
Well, it was not entirely her fault as you will learn if you choose to read the story. That should be your assignment.
Echo was clearly a codependent. Codependents chase people. They just keep giving. They lack self preservation. They always support even when it's not reciprocated in equal measure.
Your first activity as you read this self help journal, is to ask if you are a Narcissus or an Echo. These characters in this journal, are not genderized. I will simply use those heteronormative names for my case study. They only represents personality types, not gender or sexual orientation.
Your activity today:
Answer the following personalized questions:
Your activity today:
Answer the following personalized questions:
1. Who raised me?
2. Who among those (that) who raised me have I modeled?
3. How did the person who raised me respond when others are in pain?
4. How do I respond when I see others in pain?
5. How did the person who raised me respond to those who hurt them?
6. How do I respond to those who hurt me?
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