This is what I learned about love...

It's Valentine tomorrow. You should be excited. But let me tell you this...

I will make this quick. I learned this fact about love.

Love is not attachment

Love is not bondage.

Love is freedom.

Love is authenticity.

Love is vulnerable.

You see, what we call love these days is attachment. I know what an attachment is. I know what love is as well. I have experienced an attachment. When you know what something is not, it is easy to tell what it is.

Many people are in a trauma bond. A trauma bond is not a relationship. It is not love. So a guy texted you on Friday night, cursing you, and calling you crazy. Then in the morning sends you a text message saying “Hello, sweet how was your night?” And he says sorry I won’t do that again. The empath in you jumps up and excitedly says": “Okay baby. I know you did not mean it. I love you. I know you really love me.”

Oga (a Nigerian way of saying boss) wait first. You are in a trauma bond. That is not what a healthy relationship looks like.

I want you to be able to tell the difference.

Ladies do this so well too. Your wife just embarrassed you in front of your friends, and sends you a message saying: Baby, you know your love drives me crazy. I can kill because of you. I can even kill myself for you. AHH!! DANGEROUS!

Let me teach you something today. I will teach you WHAT TRAUMA BOND IS.

I will be live on our Facebook group.

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